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Hi, I’m a dating and lifestyle coach, sex and relationship writer, leading love expert, and you can find me at www.talialitman.com. And I’m Hunt Ethridge, your dating and relationship expert, author, writer, advice columnist, and all around swell guy. Today we’re going to be talking about flirting, which is absolutely necessary, important, fun… right?

Flirting is everything. You’re not going to get anywhere in terms of a romantic relationship if there isn’t some flirting going on from both sides. Absolutely. So, we’re going to give you three tips to help get your flirting game in high gear and hopefully help you to find that person of your dreams out there.

1. Flirt with confidence.
So, my number one tip when it comes to flirting is to flirt with confidence—be it online before the first meeting or on the first date. If you’re going to flirt, flirt confidently. And one way that really helps me do that is to, instead of focusing on, “Ahh, are they going to like me? Am I saying the right thing? What do they think of me?” Just switch all of that energy and focus on do you like them. As soon as you start focusing on them and getting out of your own head or any self-berating or anything like that, you’re both going to have a lot better time, and you’ll see your insecurities will kind of fly out the window. Yeah, I teach my clients that you should be worrying about whether you’re having fun. You should be worrying about what the questions that you want to find out about, not trying to present yourself as something else.

Totally. I think the mindset is like a playful curiosity. And if you could bring that to dates, instead of all this pressure—“Will they like me? Am I ever going to meet anyone?”—you’re going to have a much better time.

2. Ask fun, interesting questions.
So, the second tip that I wanted to talk about is how to ask fun and interesting questions. Because everybody asks the normal “getting to know you questions”—Where do you? Where are you from? Like all of these are boring, logical questions, and if you don’t get access to someone’s emotions in those first three to five minutes, it’s not going to go anywhere, right? I totally get it. I call them sort of “information gathering questions.” You’re asking them a question and they already know the answer. For them it’s not very interesting to answer it, so get them thinking in a different way than they would normally be thinking. Get them outside the box. Yeah. So like instead of saying, “Where are you from?” Say, “What’s one of your favorite memories from childhood?” Instead of asking where they went to college, say, “What’s the best party you ever went to? I mean you, you’ve had some amazing, wonderful, fun things happen to in your life, right? I have indeed. And does anybody ever ask you about them? No, I have to sort of access them myself if I want to bring that up. Exactly. So, you want to make these people feel good when they’re around you, and if you ask these positive emotional questions, you make them feel good, and in turn, they’re going to want to be around you more. Yup totally. Make it fun and exciting and something they want to respond to you rather than something they feel like, “Oh, I guess I better respond.” Chore. Exactly.

3. Flirt using body language.
Okay, so the third thing we want to talk about is how to flirt using body language. And body language is a language all unto itself, and it is very important, and it can tell you so much about what’s going on, right? Oh yeah. Non-verbal clues are just as important, if not more important than actually what is going on with your mouth. Yup, yeah. Exactly. And one of the first things we want to talk about is “mirroring.” And what mirroring is, is you’re unconsciously doing the same thing as the other person. If you start to talk loudly, I might start to talk a little more loudly. If you start using a lot of gestures, I’ll start using a lot of gestures. And what this does is it shows the other person, either consciously or unconsciously, you’re alike to each other. Hmm, it kind of puts you on the same side of the table as them; it’s like two becoming one.

The other thing that’s quite nice is when you actually know that the other person is interested in you. And if I am attracted to the person across the table, I will find myself leaning in. I will probably cross my legs towards them. There will be some deep eye contact and then some looking away. There might be a bit of unconscious playing with my hair or touching my lips. And that all means, “Okay, there’s physical potential here.” Yes, exactly. And never underestimate the power of a smile. People do not smile enough and it’s never going to be wasted. Absolutely. No one looks better than when they have a giant smile on their face. So when in doubt, just give them a nice smile.

And also, if you’re wondering whether the chemistry is there, you think you’re attracted to them but you’re not sure, as a female, sometimes I reach out and I maybe graze the top of their arm. And I just want to see how it feels to touch them, how they reciprocate to that. Sort of like trying it on, like how attracted are we to each other in this moment. Yup, yup. And men when it comes to touching, try to take your cue from the ladies. If they touch you, it’s okay to touch them. Just be careful obviously about going overboard.  Oh yeah.

So the biggest takeaway is to have fun with dating—whether you’re having a conversation and asking questions before you’ve even met them or you’re in-person flirting on the date. Just make it fun, take the pressure off. Less about, “Is this the love of my life? Are they going to like me?” And just be yourself and enjoy it as much as possible. Exactly. Dating is supposed to be fun. I know it can feel like work sometimes, but just have fun and things will work themselves out.

Good luck out there. Happy hunting. And Talia and Hunt say, see you later. Bye.

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Hello daters, I made this video just for you. My name is Marni, owner of The Wing Girl Method. And, from here on out, I will be your very own personal wing girl. That means it’s my job to explain women to you and break down all the frustrating, confusing and mind-boggling things they do. I’ll also tell you what to do to get the women you want using my insider resources.

Today, I wanted to answer a question that I got from David, who wrote, “Marni, I absolutely detest small talk on dates. It literally makes me mad and I know that it’s not good for dates. What else can I talk about that has more substance and gets her to open up and start talking?”

And here’s my response to David. David, I totally get it. In fact, I don’t know a single person who thinks, oh wow, I can’t wait to get into the restaurant and have mind-numbing, useless conversation about absolutely nothing. No one actually likes small talk, but everybody uses this tactic to help them discover something that they and the person standing in front of them can connect and bond on. However, I do have a couple of quick ways to bypass lengthy small talk to get you more solid and real conversations going.

1. Have three missions ready. 
What I mean by missions are things that are going on in your life that the other person can help you with. I used to run these boot camps all the time, all over the world for men, where I would coach them for three days straight and by the end, they would come out as awesome, charismatic, confident men who women simply adored. On one of these boot camps, I had another coach with me (a male coach), and I noticed he would do something that got people to open up instantly to him. He would meet someone and in minutes he would bypass the usual “get to know you” chitchat or small talk and start talking to them about something in his life that was going on and then ask them for their advice or their opinion. For example, at the time he was looking for a certain kind of chair for his apartment. (I know nothing special.) But, it was something he was seeking assistance on. He would tell people that he’s been on this mission to find the perfect chair—good balance between comfortable and fashionable (not a lazy boy style chair). He’d also tell them about where he’s already gone to find a chair like that and other details about the mission. See how this goes on as a mission. The “what do you think” aspect of this tool is what draws a woman in and gets the conversation going. Women love to give their opinions, and in fact, it’s a good way to learn more about the woman sitting in front of you. My advice is to always have three missions ready to go. They should be easy things to put together because as humans we’re always on some sort of mission (we always have things going on). It’s a great way to bypass small talk and get straight into talking as if you’ve known each other forever.

2. Be armed with some fun and different conversation starters.
I know icebreakers can be corny, but remember, both people on the date or eager to jump off the small talk bandwagon, and are hoping to land on a flowing conversation that showcases their personality. So, why not help move that along faster? Many of the usual questions we ask people in the beginning don’t really tell us much about them. We learn what they do for a living and other things that might not reveal if you’re actually compatible. Why not stand out and make her notice you with different questions. So, I put together a list of cute ones that once again, they’re super cheesy, but they can get conversations started.

So here they are.

Number one: What’s your favorite song to sing in the shower?
Number two: What was your most embarrassing moment in your life?
Number three: What shows did you watch growing up?
Number four: What was your favorite book when you were younger, and what’s your favorite book now?
Number five: What’s the weirdest thing that ever happened to you?
Number six: What’s your favorite ice cream flavor?
Number seven: How do you feel about people talking during movies?
Number eight: Tattoos—yay or nay?

Again, not magical topics, but what these icebreakers will do is help lighten things up. They’re different and they’re fun.

Plus, these questions will help you see the authentic side of a woman rather than the rehearsed, buttoned up version, which will possibly lead to some good connection. Once you’ve talked for a while, you can move onto deeper questions. Think of questions like, um, “Do you like this city?” Or, “What do you like about the city? Have you lived in a lot of places? What’s your favorite thing about your job?” These can help open a woman up and really tell you things about her—how she works and what she thinks.

And those are my two tactics for breaking the ice with women or really anyone. Having a few missions and being armed with fun and different conversation starters can really help make your dates be more engaging, and help connection happen faster (if it’s not happening already). By the way, connection is what creates that spark that women talk about all the time. More connections equals a greater chance for a spark and an even greater chance for a second date.

For more tips on how to rock a first date with a woman and have her wanting to see you again and again, go to www.winggirlmethod.com or check out my other videos on YouTube.

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Breakups can be one of the most difficult things to deal with surrounding relationships. Whether it’s something out of the blue or something you can see coming a long way off, they can lead to feelings of anger, confusion and hurt.

And while it’s necessary to go through some of these stages, at some point you eventually need to get back out there into the dating world. It can seem daunting though after a breakup.

Here are 5 steps to help you move on after a breakup, so you can get ready to start putting yourself out there again:

1. Spend time with friends and family.
Sometimes after a rough breakup, you can feel unloved. So, to make some extra effort to be around those people that do love you is absolutely important. Plan an extra trip home if you live far away. Reach out to your friends and have some small, casual get togethers. It will start clearing out some of that old energy, and refilling it with good and positive energy.

2. Reflect on what happened.
In order to heal and be able to move forward, you need to do some serious self-reflection. Has this been a problem for you in the past? Has this been a pattern? Are you choosing partners that are wrong for you? It’s important to identify the factors that you may have brought into the relationship so that you can avoid repeating them again in the future.

3. Focus on is forgiving yourself.
While yes, you should reflect upon your part in the breakup, you need to refrain from beating yourself up. We all make mistakes that we should learn from. However, that doesn’t mean you should constantly be harping on them. Unresolved feelings of guilt or anger can lead to resentment, and they can fester and cause possible future relationships to implode before they’ve even had time to blossom.

4. Create a healthy mindset.
Lauren Howe and Carol Dweck of Stanford University looked at the effects of our personal stories about the breakup, and how they affect our psychological distress and our ability to adjust. The stories we tell ourselves about the breakup highlight our own deficits, such as being too needy, or not sexy or attractive enough, not smart enough, too boring, and so on and so forth. On the other hand, people who see their traits and personalities as fluid and changeable, tend to create less damaging stories about the breakup. They may be more able to see it as an opportunity for growth, and expect to have better relationships the next time around.

They may think, “I can be less controlling next time,” or, “I can make things move slower to make sure she’s ready for commitment.” That gives them more hope for future relationships that they have, and it’s much more likely that they’ll want to get back out there and find a new one.

5. Start trying new things.
In order to meet new people, you need to start trying new things. Pick up a hobby. Go to a meet-up in your area. See what events are coming up around you. The best way to get rid of old memories is to replace them with new memories. Not only will you have fun doing new things and will have things to talk about on your dates, but you might actually meet someone out at these events. Basically, you want to put yourself back into play and get back out there—growing with new experiences.

Now I know breakups can be hard—they’re the worst things about relationships. But, we all have to go through them to find the great ones. And to quote the famous poet, Taylor Swift, “It’s going to be forever or it’s going to down in flames.” So, don’t worry about these breakups. I know they hurt and I know that they’re the worst part of it. But, get through them, move on, and maybe the next one will be the last one.

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Hey, it’s great to be back. And, it’s especially great to be back when the topic is food. The online dating site Zoosk has done a big study (over 3.7 million profiles) and they found five surprising facts about food and dating that I want to share with you today. Stick around.

Number one surprising fact about food in online dating: Talking about food in your profile increases your chance of being messaged.

Now, the interesting part about this was that the type of food you mentioned matters and it matters a lot. The number one food to mention was “guacamole.” Would not have guessed that—144% more messages if you talk about “guacamole” in your profile. Number two I would have guessed because it’s basically the best food on the planet: Potatoes. If you mention “potatoes” in your profile, Zoosk has found that you have a 101% more chance of being messaged than a woman who does not mention “potatoes.” By the way, if a woman regularly talked about potatoes, I’d probably marry her.

Number three was “chocolate,” and “sushi” and “salad” rounded up the top five. Now, on the other hand, there were certain foods that decreased the chance you’d be messaged. If you put “fried chicken” in your profile, there’s a 15% less chance that you would be messaged by gentlemen. And if you put “yams” in your profile, there’s a 70% less chance you would be messaged. Now I thought, oh, that’s funny (ha ha ha), I wonder what a yam is. I looked up what a yam is—a yam is a sweet potato. How? How can you have a 101% increase in messages with normal potatoes and a 70% decrease with sweet potatoes? Ya’ll are potato racists. If you see a man, who mentions “yams” in his profile (those beautiful, sweet potatoes in his profile), you must message that man. No matter how ugly he is.

Number two surprising fact about food: While putting food in your profile may help you get more messages, sending your first message about food will not help you get more responses.

The only exception is “eggplant.” And I’m sure you can guess why. Eggplant responses may not be the type of responses that you want. If you go and talk about “burritos”, you are 7% less likely to get a response. And, if you talk about “fried chicken,” you’re 15% less likely. What I really want to know is who is continually bringing up fried chicken in their profile and messages? Who says, “You know what, this is a great woman. I’m going to talk to her about fried chicken in my first message?” Like, how has natural selection not gotten to you already?

Surprising food fact number three: People love vegetarians. Just two years ago mentioning “vegetarian” or “vegetarianism” in your profile meant that you got a 100% fewer responses to your messages. Vegetarian racism was a thing. Now, you get 3% more responses to your messages. And, this is a kicker, you mention vegetarianism in your profile, you’re 52% more likely to get messaged in the first place.

Surprising food fact number four is actually not that surprising at all: Don’t suggest fast food. The study showed that 44% of men would think a woman was either easy to please or unhealthy if she suggested fast food. Conversely, women aren’t fans of it either—59% of women said that if a man suggested fast food, they’d either think that he was unhealthy or cheap. That said, 55% of men said they would not judge and would be more than happy to go on a fast food date as a first date. So, if you are a lover of KFC like myself, go for your life.

Surprising food fact number five: The study looked at what were the best foods to have on a first date. What did people enjoy the most? They found that steak and seafood were the top two picks. While for millennials, the top pick was sushi. On the other hand, any foods that are messy, gas producing, unpronounceable, or result in bad breath (i.e. garlic) were the worst types of food for a first date.

Well, that’s the video.  Make sure you check out my YouTube channel: Mark Rosenfeld. You can search for that on YouTube. Hit the like button on this video, share it around, leave a comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts. I read through all of them. And I will see you in the next video next month.

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Hello daters, I made this video just for you. My name is Marni, owner of The Wing Girl Method, and from here on out I will be your very own personal wing girl. That means it’s my job to explain women to you and break down all the frustrating, confusing and mind-boggling things they do. And, I’ll also tell you what to do to get the women you want using my insider resources.

So, first dates suck. They do. They’re nerve-wracking. You’ve got to get all gussied up for something that may be a total waste of your time. Plus, in today’s app world, you could be having one of these a night with someone you’ve barely invested anything into. The light at the end of the tunnel for first dates is that even though the majority of them don’t continue on to a second date or more, the few that do, become something pretty amazing. Which means that even if your upcoming date may not be the date, there are still some go-to first date rules you absolutely must not break to ensure you’re dating karma is solid.

To help me break down a few of these rules, I’ve asked my friends over at Zoosk to provide me with some hard facts and stats provided from their online dating users. These stats reveal big deal-breakers that you may not be aware of, but need to know to ensure success in dating. So, have no fear because your wing girl is here.

1. Being a gentleman is still a plus with women. 
After surveying 9,000 Zoosk members, a whopping 95% think that holding a door open on a date is romantic, and 93% feel that public displays of affection are romantic, and 82% think that paying for your date is romantic. I tend to agree with 95% of people about holding doors. It’s just nice and classy, and so is paying for a date.

Maybe I’m old school, and some women may be mad at me for saying it, but I think it’s a must to pay for a first date. Doesn’t mean the date has to be super expensive. I simply think it’s unmanly to divvy up the check by halfsies. Listen, if you’re dating the ultramodern woman who doesn’t like being paid for, she’ll let you know at some point in the date, and then, you can adjust accordingly.

2. Have good manners and be presentable.
After surveying 2,300 female Zoosk members, 70% of women said having good manners is the best way a date can make a great first impression, followed by a warm and friendly greeting like a handshake, a hug or a smile.

I’m not a 100% in agreement with this one. Being polite isn’t going to get a woman excited about you and eager to go on a second date. I know I’ve never been turned on just because someone said “please” and “thank you” to me. However, being kind to people, not talking over or at her, and being awesomely enjoyable will always get you a second date. As for the handshake and smile, you definitely want to show a woman you’re comfortable and open, and these things will help you show that.

3. Dress nice for dates.
After surveying over 6,600 Zoosk members, 86% of singles say it’s important to dress nice for a date. And the majority of women feel strongly about this one—94% of women agree that dressing nice for a date is a must.

All right, so this stat needs a little bit of interpretation. Dressing nice does not always mean buttoned up, slacks and good shoes. It can mean that, but you also have to take into consideration your own style, the venue, and the audience that you’re trying to attract. The stat just means that a woman doesn’t want you looking like a slob who could care less. As long as you put yourself together and own whatever style you choose to wear for the evening, it’s going to be appreciated.

4. Do not wear wrinkled or baggy clothes.
So, this one goes with number three. 66% of singles say wrinkled clothes are the biggest fashion turn-off. And, baggy clothes weren’t popular either—50% listed them as a major fashion faux-pas for dates. Wearing socks with sandals or crocs were also huge no-nos, which just goes to show that people really do pay attention to what is on your feet.

Now, I’m not a fashionista, but I find these things highly offensive. Okay, so maybe these things are not offensive, but they’re just simply bad choices. I know I said, own your style, but if this is your style, sell it and get a new style because these things are not attractive and just plain awful. If you want to wear these things in the comfort of your own home, by all means do it. Just don’t wear them if you’re going to go out on a date with any living woman.

5. Women don’t like fast food first dates.
After surveying 7,000 Zoosk members, the majority of women (59%) have a negative perception of their date when they suggest a fast food restaurant. In addition, 10% of women said going to a fast food restaurant for a first date is an immediate deal-breaker.

I get that we’re all on a budget lately, but there’s a good way and a bad way to do a budget date. A first date at Mickey D’s is definitely a bad way. A good way is to find something local going on in the city, like a festival or a market, and just go. Equally as budget friendly but doesn’t signal, “I want this date to be over quick, and possibly, lead to horrible diarrhea for both of us.”

I do have to note that I have had many successful first dates that did end at a fast food chain. This was after an enjoyable evening out and the fast food option was a naughty late-night option that we could both bond on. In this case, it’s acceptable to take your date out for fast food. But, never do it as the first date location.

6. Avoid messy and heavy foods.
When asked what foods they avoid on dates, 23% of the 7,000 surveyed said buffalo wings or ribs. Other unpopular foods for date night are Indian food and anything that’s hard to pronounce.

As I’ve said before, you’re not kidding anyone if you think you’re meant to show your true self on a first date. I know I don’t want to see all your flaws and I certainly don’t want you seeing mine just yet. Let me like you first and then you can show me all the gross human stuff that you do. Which is why eating messy foods or foods that can upset your belly are big no-nos for first dates. Sticking to easy to digest foods and foods that don’t require a bib are always a plus. Save that for date number two.

Listen, at the end of the day, if you guys have a wild connection and the conversation just clicks, these things aren’t going to matter. You can eat wings and ribs and spill them all over yourself. The advice given in this video was for those dates that start off as, “Eh, not so sure if I like this guy just yet.” You don’t want to give her reasons to push you into the no category. So, follow the advice in this video to ensure your best self can shine through and isn’t clouded by silly little deal-breakers.

For more tips on how to rock the first date and make her want to you, go to www.winggirlmethod.com or check out my other videos on YouTube. And, I’ll see you soon.

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Hey there, my name is Mat Boggs. I’m a best-selling author and creator of Cracking The Man Code. I help women empower themselves in their love lives and help them manifest their man. And my team and I were asking the question, is it possible to increase your attractiveness with someone that you desire? And so, we wanted to find out what the scientific world had to say about this. And so, in this video, we have put together five scientifically proven ways to increase your attractiveness.

1. Laugh.
Number one is laughter. Now, the Journal of Evolution and Human Behavior published an article and a study where they actually found out that men were attracted to women who were receptive to their humor. In other words, women who laughed at their jokes. Now, at first glance, I know what this might sound like. It’s like, okay, if a woman strokes a man’s ego, then he likes her more. But it’s a little bit deeper than that at times too because, men, we have a deep desire to have our thoughts respected. And so, when you’re in a conversation with someone, and a man puts out a joke or something he thinks is funny, and you receive that and you laugh, now you’re connecting on a deeper level.

Now, what is it that causes us to laugh? We each have a laugh threshold, right? Which is our mood. And the higher our laugh threshold or the more stressed out we are, the harder it is to actually laugh. Well, we can lower the laugh threshold by putting ourselves in a positive state, putting ourselves in a good mood. And you’ve been in moods like this, where you just are hanging out with your friends and you’re positive and you’re laughing and having a great time—it’s silly dumb stuff. Well, you can actually increase the level of attractiveness other people have for you by putting yourself in a low laugh threshold state where you’re laughing more easily, having a great time, and connecting with the person that you’re interested in.

2. Smile.
Secret number two is smiling versus not smiling. There was a research study done in The Journal of Neuropsychology, where they found out that when someone sees a smiling face, it activates an area in their orbital frontal cortex that stimulates you to receive a reward. The other key to this is that there’s actually 43 muscles in the face. And when you smile, your body releases the neuropeptides—dopamine, serotonin, and a whole mixture of feel-good chemicals—where you actually feel better. Your whole body lightens up and you put yourself in a better mood. And what’s fascinating is that when you smile, usually the person that you’re with smiles back at you. And so, when they get that rush of neuropeptides and these feel-good chemicals, and they start to feel better, they associate that good feeling with you. So notice, if you want to boost your attractiveness with someone else, relax, smile, you will bring a reward to them and feel-good chemicals to you both.

3. Be honest.
Secret number three is honesty. And I found this one to be really interesting. The Journal of Research in Personality did a study where they showed men these photos of women, and they attached these photos of women with different personality traits. And they had them rank their degree of attractiveness. And the one quality that stood out among all the other qualities, especially for men who wanted a long-term relationship, was honesty.

So how do you actually demonstrate honesty on a date? One degree is just be honest because we all have an intuition and we can sense when someone is aligned versus when they’re not aligned. But, the other way that you can demonstrate honesty is when you communicate your standards and boundaries. When you communicate what you want, even if you don’t know if the other person wants the same thing (which can be scary)—if you want a relationship, if you want to start a family, if you want something serious. A lot of women think, I can’t say that on the first date. I’ll scare the guy away. And I want to challenge that assumption. I want to challenge you to communicate that on the first date, even if he doesn’t want it. Why? Because when you communicate what you want, irrespective of knowing what he wants, it shows not just honesty, but confidence. And there’s something subconscious that’s communicated when you’re confident—there’s another attraction trigger that’s actually ignited.

So, imagine a woman demonstrating her confidence by communicating her standards (what she wants in a relationship), and she has choices (a whole bunch of other guys around her interested in her). If she’s confident and we think, Wow, she’s got a lot of choices, these other men desire her.Our desire for her increases because of what’s called social proof (if other guys desire her, our own desire goes up).

So, be honest on your dates, be authentic, and feel free to communicate exactly what you want because that confidence and that honesty is going to translate to attraction.

4. Wear red.
The fourth attraction trigger is color, specifically the color red. When you were red, studies show that men find you more attractive. The American Psychological Association did a study where they found that men found women who wore red more sexually attractive and having higher desirability. Although, it didn’t affect the men’s perception of these women in terms of likeability and intelligence or friendliness. All of those stay the same, but specifically sexual attraction and  desirability increased when a woman was wearing red. What’s fascinating about this too is this actually connects to back when you and I were babies. When we were born, our eyes were developing and we didn’t actually have the ability to see color right away. And then around three weeks, our eyes develop the ability to see color, and the first primary color that we learn how to see is the color red. Now, I find that if red’s not your color, don’t sweat it. There’s lots of other attraction triggers that you can use, but it’s just fascinating how powerful colors can be in generating attractiveness.

5. Mirror body language. 
Secret number five is called mirroring and matching. There was a study done in The Journal of i-Perception where men literally found women more attractive that mirror the same body positions as they were holding. And, this makes sense because as human beings we tend to like people who are like us. So, one way that you can build rapport with your man is to mirror his body position. Right? Now, it goes beyond body position—you can do facial expressions and tonality—there’s a whole science behind mirroring and matching, and building rapport. But just very simply, you know, if you’re on a date with him, and he’s telling you a story and he leans in, then you lean in. Or if he sits back and puts his hand on his face, you lean back and you bring your hand to your face. Or if it gets really excited and he’s telling you a story, you respond to him and you get excited. I can tell you, I’ve been on a date where I’m all excited and I’m telling someone this story, and the woman’s face was literally like this. Like I didn’t even know if she was listening to me or what. She was so deep in her mind, listening, there was no expression happening here. It was this complete disconnect. And so, that connection is going to increase attractiveness, and when you’re able to mirror him, it’s going to help him feel more connected with you.

So, there you have it—5 scientific ways to increase your attractiveness with men. And my question for you is this, “What do you guys do that you find yourself attracted to?” Go ahead and post a comment in the comment section below.

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